"Boss mode," Whistler, and growing up - H
I had the privilege of coordinating a wedding last weekend for some friends - my first "gig." E told me I was in "boss mode." I guess when I'm planning something and in charge, I'm super focused on the end goal. I get tunnel vision, and I'm like a steam roller going full steam ahead. If you're in my path, I'm thinking that you're only there b/c you're going to help me and that you're as concerned about the end goal as I am. If you're not there to help, then I just roll over you. E says that I get scary to other people. It's not a conscious thing. I'm just too focused to think about anything else. Anyway, this is the opposite of E, who isn't goal oriented as much as he is people oriented. So, while I'm concerned about the end product, making sure everything is in order and perfect, E is concerned that people are happy. E and I have talked about how we'd probably be a good team if we ever opened a business together.
Whistler, here we come. We're actually expecting to be a little disappointed about our ski experience in light of the fact that Tahoe has had so much powder and Whistler-Blackcomb has not. They've been getting a couple of inches here and there, but nothing compared to the 10 feet in Tahoe! I don't think we'll be disappointed by the terrain, but it's hard to ride when slopes are icy and you have less control. I can hold my own on the slopes, but going too fast makes me nervous and wiping out on hard-packed snow and ice isn't pleasant. We'll see. We'll see.
Growing up. My parents' idea of growing up seems to mean giving up travel, snowboarding, photography classes, and the like. In short, it seems like a life where you give up a whole lot and don't enjoy the little things. I think I can understand that to some degree. I know my parents have sacrificed a lot for our family, and, in their minds, it's probably part of the formula, the way it's "supposed" to be. Growing up means giving up these extraneous things that seem frivolous and thinking about "real life" i.e. having children. (Right now, it's about having children. Before it was about going to college. For example, I was supposed to give up playing soccer so that I could study to get into a good college...ALTHOUGH research showed that students involved in extracurriculars often excel in academics as well!!!...and also b/c girls shouldn't play soccer. deep breath...count to 10...Cool down, H.) It's probably a good idea to prepare a bit to start a family, to start making decisions in your life with your future family in mind. Maybe this is what my parents are thinking too. I agree with that...not that we necessarily have to give up the little things (we may), but the idea that we need to start thinking ahead and understand that little things we do now will affect our children in the future - everything from our eating habits to our relationship w/God.
Gosh, doesn't that seem daunting? The amount of responsibility and influence we will have on another person is just so incredible! I hope I can be a good mom one day and that E will be a great dad.
Whistler, here we come. We're actually expecting to be a little disappointed about our ski experience in light of the fact that Tahoe has had so much powder and Whistler-Blackcomb has not. They've been getting a couple of inches here and there, but nothing compared to the 10 feet in Tahoe! I don't think we'll be disappointed by the terrain, but it's hard to ride when slopes are icy and you have less control. I can hold my own on the slopes, but going too fast makes me nervous and wiping out on hard-packed snow and ice isn't pleasant. We'll see. We'll see.
Growing up. My parents' idea of growing up seems to mean giving up travel, snowboarding, photography classes, and the like. In short, it seems like a life where you give up a whole lot and don't enjoy the little things. I think I can understand that to some degree. I know my parents have sacrificed a lot for our family, and, in their minds, it's probably part of the formula, the way it's "supposed" to be. Growing up means giving up these extraneous things that seem frivolous and thinking about "real life" i.e. having children. (Right now, it's about having children. Before it was about going to college. For example, I was supposed to give up playing soccer so that I could study to get into a good college...ALTHOUGH research showed that students involved in extracurriculars often excel in academics as well!!!...and also b/c girls shouldn't play soccer. deep breath...count to 10...Cool down, H.) It's probably a good idea to prepare a bit to start a family, to start making decisions in your life with your future family in mind. Maybe this is what my parents are thinking too. I agree with that...not that we necessarily have to give up the little things (we may), but the idea that we need to start thinking ahead and understand that little things we do now will affect our children in the future - everything from our eating habits to our relationship w/God.
Gosh, doesn't that seem daunting? The amount of responsibility and influence we will have on another person is just so incredible! I hope I can be a good mom one day and that E will be a great dad.
posted by haed at 8:04 AM
2 Comments:
wow, H, you got your wish to coordinate a wedding! congrats. you can definitely coordinate mine as i want nothing to do with wedding planning. so long as you don't steam roll me ;).
have fun in whistler! just be thankful you aren't skiing the icy molehills of wisconsin which i may be doing....
Just wanted to say that I have enjoyed Eddie's recent posts on this blog profusely. I find them witty, informative, and insightful.
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